Extremely small changes can produce enormous effects......
As a sailor, I learned the theory of map plotting years ago. It seems very straightforward, as all one has to do is draw a line between a and b on paper. But I also found that practice could be very different, because I would only have to sail half a degree off my 'line' for one day of a fourteen day voyage to end up in Argentina instead of the Caribbean!
And that is where my basic philosophy comes from ... the idea of 'Chaos Theory'. Another example is this question: If a butterfly flaps its wings in Brazil, can it cause a tornado in Amsterdam? The theory promotes this idea that tiny actions can produce huge effects. But my own experience is that often this can only be seen in retrospect.
We all know that genes are responsible for patterns of inheritance and Bruce Lipton's studies of Epigenetics have found that our genes are very much influenced by environment. Ergo, if we can change that environment, we can change the pattern. If we manage to make this change in very small increments, step by tiny step, we may experience some profound effects in years to come.
This is one of the major, exciting principles that I apply to the coaching work. Powerful and profound, it provides both parameters and a guiding direction, much like plotting a to b on a chart. This structure and disciplined focus on the destination, with all the small adjustments we make to the 'environment', allow us to arrive in the port of choice without drifting off course. This explains why the coaching experience must be based on order and positive outcome and not be blown off course by indecision, procrastination or unclear guidance.
Horses can be the conduit to opening up to ourselves and discovering new ways to move forward into a richer life.
Working with Horses helps us to develop.
Leadership/ self leadership
Awareness of our unconscious behaviours wanted or not….
Becoming Present in the present
Trust in self and others
Working with horses helps us to understand the differences between
Expectations vs agreements
Judgement vs observation
Meaning of Body language vs words spoke
The understanding of believing we can or we can't
Active listening vs your normal listening
Dissonance vs consonance
"We do not not find who we are "being" in life all on our own; rather, we find it through one another." Here the "other" becomes a mirror so that we can become aware and see how and what our behaviours are and how we learn. This is scientifically underlaid with the findings and mechanics of 'Mirror Neurones' and some scientists talk about how this relates to empathy, although this is not quite proven yet. Being self aware is what I talk about and here is why.
There are so many elements in our lives that serve to condition us; especially at a young age, when we demonstrate behaviours and patterns that are designed to save, help or suit us at that particular time. Whilst we grow out of these and no longer need them to protect or help us, we have nevertheless become so "good" at them that we do them unconsciously.
In later life, these behaviours can start working against us and show up as nervousness, anxiety, mental block, fear and sometimes even depression. However, we cannot change any of this until we become aware of what needs to be changed. In our work together, we pick up these patterns and behaviours and unravel them.
We look at what brings awareness of our conscious and unconscious patterns and behaviours and how this has an effect on how we see our surroundings. Armed with this knowledge, we can then act from a healthier base of honesty, love, freedom and reality. For me, that all adds up to "knowing one's true self" and from there, we can control our own responses to what happens in our environment and really get to grips with the fundamental difference between "respond" and "react".
"Listening has importance only when one is not projecting one's own desires through which one listens."
"A human approach to equine learning is best met with an open mind and desire to grow in so many ways. That is how we can achieve the best results for ourselves. Horses are quick to sense the emotional field of a human, as they are prey animals and can read body language easily. They are also herding animals and use non-verbal communication for survival.
Horses can sense if a human has an agenda or goal from the start, which can be discouraging for both. But if the human has a high energetic field and responds appropriately to others, both equine and human, then that leads to successful communication, leadership and partnership between horse and human.
Horses can invoke a lot of emotion in whoever they interact with, as they are considered emotional beings. They are a constant and sure source of trust, giving clear feedback and operating fairly. This can help to rewire and anchor a more positive emotional state in humans.
Horses are capable of reflecting how we are, which makes them uniquely suited to experiential learning and coaching. As such, testing ourselves with horses gives us a chance to practice gaining insight into how humans would react to a situation or feeling.
They are powerful creatures, but can formulate strong human/animal bonds, where there is mutual appreciation. Horses also enjoy companionship and try to please every human they meet, responding with love, honesty, sincerity and care. They have been proven to give people genuine opportunities to engage with others positively and honestly.